Offended Doesn’t Pay
by Peter Conlin
What are we really offended about?
If the person doesn’t know better, isn’t that out of your control? So, it’s not worth being offended over, at least not for very long.
If they don’t know better and it is in your control, shouldn’t you feel bad that you missed having a conversation with them that might have helped prevent their ignorance?
If they didn’t consult with us, shouldn’t we check to see if pride or something of that nature is getting in the way?
If they don’t care that our feelings or thoughts matter, then shouldn’t we examine the relationship to see why something like this fell through? Where is the ever-widening crack, that maybe outsides notice, but you or the other person are close to see?
If our identity is in Christ, then we should look to Him to help us properly respond to the matter before being upset or offended.
If one’s identity is not in Christ, then it will be easy to default to being offended. And if this happens to apply to the other person in the matter, you can have that conversation with them regarding the person of Christ.
Eternity is greater than the offense, for we have all offended Christ, and yet consider what His response.
Each and every time.